The meaning of relationships, professional and personal – is to test one’s core. Relationships that come up in life will reflect back to us certain aspects of the other person’s personality that we really like or dislike. Thus, relationships can be something spiritual. It can be a chance for us to grow as people. We can use the relationship to ask ourselves, why is it that we like or dislike this aspect of the person we are in a relationship with?
The true test comes when we start to see things that we dislike about the other person. Often times, we don’t acknowledge the GOOD stuff, but we sure do the BAD. Arguments, conflicting views, confrontations – these are true tests of one’s core. How does it test us? Well during stressed times we have a choice to make on how we act. The test comes when something that we really dislike about the other person shows up at 100 mph and is in our face. Are we still going to act with love? Or are they our enemies now?
Relationships are a spiritual experience. We can rise up to the occasion when something really bothers us and create life changes that will advance us as people. The other option is that we can stay with our same old views, not make any changes, and live in pain. Rest assured, things come up again either way. The choice is ours to make.
Ching Professional, Student
Happy month of June! So I ended the challenge a little earlier than expected. I did not update for the full 30 days even though I tried to do my best to be loving. I had some break through moments like acknowledging my mother for looking out for me even though I disagreed with her criticisms and was really angry because of them. I also apologized to a friend for something I did a more than a year ago. I ended up going to the Los Angeles area for the week and my computer access was limited. I was also distracted by the city as I went out and explored all of the area of the county.
Throughout the challenge, what I learned was that being more loving is a conscious decision. During the heat of emotions, it is very easy to go unconscious and to not be loving. This is especially true with emotions like anger, jealousy, or overwhelm. But even if one is not loving during the heat of the moment, you still has a choice to be loving afterwards and to do what’s right - whether it be to apologize or to acknowledge your part in the situation. It is all about putting the destructive ego aside and using the ego for a good purpose at that point.
Overall, it was a very good challenge. It’s definitely something that I want to implement into my life for the long run. As they say, what the world needs is more love. I think taking on this challenge kind of woke me up to the idea of what love does for me on a daily basis.
Ching Professional, Student
I felt extremely loving all throughout the morning, afternoon, and evening. At work, I thanked a veteran for his service in the army and told him that his choice to serve was very admirable. Secondly, while I was visiting with my mother I thanked her for giving me life advice and her opinions. When I saw my dad, I asked him how are you? When he left for work, I said bye to him.
Ching Professional, Student